Anger is a perfectly normal human response to things that we find unsettling. We feel it when we are challenged, undermined, misunderstood or simply not heard. We feel it when we sense a threat towards ourselves our friends or our families for example. There is really no limit to anger; anger can emerge in response to pretty much anything and everyone gets angry from time to time.
Anger only becomes a problem when it begins to affect our sense of happiness and wellbeing. It can become problematic if it starts to affect our ability to operate in the workplace, in our relationships or in our daily lives. If you feel that anger is becoming a problem for you then counselling can help.
Anger is linked to the fight or flight response, our natural instinct to fight for survival or to run away. It is a really useful response when we feel threatened. However, it is not always convenient when dealing with a disgruntled boss or a difference of opinion with a loving partner. Although it can be beneficial when used to assert or express ourselves and to get our needs met. It can also be helpful in enabling us to achieve our goals and allows others to see how we feel and just how hurt we can become by their actions at times.
Therapy can help by allowing you the space to explore your feelings in greater depth and think about what they mean. It can help you consider your triggers to anger and explore alternative ways of responding to them. Counselling can help you break down your anger into manageable chunks and to work on challenges as they occur, rather than letting them build up to an explosive level. You might want to look at how advantageous your anger is and how it is currently serving you. You may even start to look at your anger as a driver, enabling you to use it more productively and to get things done. Therapy can result in improved communication skills. It can help you express your feelings in more constructive and productive ways, enhancing your relationships and improving your sense of wellbeing.
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